Introducing Mumdrah
A need inside has been growing. Competing with the responsibilities, demands and emergencies that rule and shape my everyday. Finally this desire has won a place in my list of priorities; and a blog is...
View ArticleFamily ties
In Mumdrah’s world, there is nothing simple about Family. Convoluted and complex, the warm care and comfort of our family comes with a deep pain hidden in its folds. Love – for us – walks hand in...
View ArticleLetterbox: a guide to indirect contact
What is letterbox, or indirect contact? This is simply a means to keep in contact with family members and/or foster carers through letters and correspondence. How will we know what to do? An...
View ArticleAdoption: Loss and change
What has she lost in the short course of her life? - Her people: Severed not simply from family and close ones, but from the connections she had to the web of her whole community. Vaporized in a...
View ArticleMother’s Day
Hold fast; Mother’s Day is coming. Every high street, every store, every advert and bar of chocolate is awash in a sea of yellow; our entire world is rebranded to portray the simple gentleness and love...
View ArticleMother’s day toolbox
If you have read my blog post on our mother’s day experiences in adoption, you may be wondering how we navigate through the supercharged emotions – or more to the point how you are going to handle it!...
View ArticleBricks in the wall
The building blocks of every school are made of more than bricks and mortar. Their high walls are made strong by the stark white building block institutions of policy, protocol, tradition, the three...
View ArticleFish fingers
We rally round our kitchen table as a centre point of family life. It is always covered in crumbs, glitter, coins, bottle tops, and all those things that make the world go round. It is a big old wooden...
View ArticleClose encounters of the contact kind
My post today forms part of the Weekly Adoption Shout Out theme – contact. I make no bones of using this opportunity to plant a few thoughts. However your family is made, imagine for a moment being...
View ArticleHoles
Days in the Mumdrah house are riddled with holes. CHT describes her hole as big, and red, and inside her; part of her physical anatomy. As she talks of it she grasps at her chest around her heart, and...
View ArticleAll about Love
CHT often says, “Love isn’t all about Love”. And I’ve come to recognise she is absolutely right. Love is a doing word, a verb, over and above that most primal of feelings. Love is the unabashed truth...
View ArticleCollateral damage
I remember it like it was yesterday. Clear and distinct in my mind. My social worker during prep phase sat on my brand new sofa and said “And what happens – what will you do – when ‘Plus 1′ takes …...
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